The
Buzzfeed article was titled “This Man Invited People To A “BBQ Not
Orgy” On Grindr And It Was Surprisingly Heartwarming.” It’s about how
Chris Bowman, a 61 year old man from Apex, North Carolina has been hosting an
annual summer BBQ. He advertises this BBQ through the gay dating/hookup app,
Grindr. It’s about how the event is surprisingly sweet and Bowman, who is a
recovered alcoholic, wants to give back to the community and bring people
together.
TL;DR
Chris is a registered sex offender with a history of pedophilia and preying on
young people. His ‘not an orgy’ and community talk is a gaslighting tactic to
groom young people into having sex with him. Buzzfeed, Vice, and other social
media outlets giving his event a platform endangers LGBT youth.
A
group of four of us (J, M, S, and A) attended the BBQ in the summer of 2017. J received
an invite similar to the one shown in the Buzzfeed article over Grindr, and we’re
young and dumb so we decided what the hell, let’s go. We rolled up and saw a fire
truck and ambulance already there. He’d invited the local fire department and
EMS to attend the BBQ. The food was admittedly very good, and the crowd was a
strange mix of after-church and from Grindr. Most of the other folks at the BBQ
seemed fine and kind. Buzzfeed got that right. Here is what they left out:
More
information about his charges & appeal: Click Here
1997:
Chris is giving Daniel, a 14 yo boy, a golf lesson. He locks the doors to the
store and turns off the lights. He comes up behind Daniel under the impression
of adjusting the child’s technique. He reaches down into Daniel’s underwear and
molests him.
1998:
Chris’s daughter has two friends over for a slumber party. They are sisters.
When everyone is asleep, Jessica, a 15 yo girl, is walking down the stairs of
his multi-level house. Chris approaches, pulls down her shorts, and performs
oral sex on her. He stops when Jessica’s sister stumbles upon the scene.
2005:
Chris provides his house as a location for two friends, a 24 yo and 18 yo, to
have sex with their underage girlfriends, 14 yo and 15 yo.
He
appealed his 2005 convictions that testimony from 1997 & 98 was inadmissible
in the determination of guilt phase of his trial.
THE BBQ
Chris
knew who we were and immediately inserted himself into our group. We figured,
yeah we’ll talk with him a while—he gave us all this food, so we kind of have
to (!!THIS IS HIS STRATEGY!!). Anyway, we listened to him talk about orgies,
sex, golf, and drugs in Europe for about an hour. Topics he hit:
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Orgies he’d attended in downtown Paris where you
circled the arc de triumph in your car until forming a chain of other searching
cars that would eventually peel off into a warehouse or somewhere to initiate
the orgy. It’s cool you, should totally try it sometime! OKAY.
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He talked a lot about how his favorite drug to use was
Black Beauty
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He talked a lot about how good the golfing was in
Scotland (He molested a 14 yo boy in 1997 while teaching a golf lesson!)
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He spent a lot of time trying to convince us to
attend the “BBQ After Dark”
The
heat was incredible that day and we were starting to get tired of his weird sex
talk. Chris saw this and asked J what was wrong. J told him it was just kind of
hot. Chris followed up by inviting J to go on and take his shirt off. J said
no, he was fine. Chris said, “Oh no, come on! Take your shirt off! I’ll take my
shirt off!” J ignored it. We were all uncomfortable. Throughout the ENTIRE
event, Chris constantly reminded us about the after dark portion of the BBQ,
which we were all very invited to. We had no plans of going, but kept our
refusals soft and polite out of respect, because again, the BBQ is a tactic to
make you treat him kinder and feel bad about thinking he’s creepy.
THE NEXT DAY
This
was when the solicitations started. For the next year and a half until J
deleted his Grindr last fall, Chris continued to send J messages trying to move
things forward. He also tried to pick up A and S through J’s Grindr. He’s
talked about how he’s really excited about the buzz the event has been getting
and how he’s hoping the event will grow and grow. J hasn’t responded to the
messages that have kept coming for over a year. Attached are a few screenshots.
CONCLUSION
We
tried to contact Buzzfeed after the article was first published about how they
had misrepresented the nature of the event. When they didn’t respond, we didn’t
think it mattered too much. Maybe we were being too critical? The food was good…
However, now that we are aware of Chris’s history of pedophilia, we want to
make sure anyone who decides to attend knows what to expect.
I really would like anyone who’s reblogged the original version of the post to reblog this one. The original one (with over 300k notes) has too many variations of this story. NO ONE should attend this man’s bbq. He’s a pedophile that grooms young boys on grindr and at his “Pure” BBQ. The evidence is all here.
Dr. James Barry, Albert Cashier, Charley Parkhurst, Billy Tipton, and Dr. Alan Hart could have each written “I am a man and want to be recognized across history as such” and transphobes would still be like… “wow what misunderstood butch heroes… lesbian icons!!!!”
interesting how they… didn’t all write that. across history women have disguised themselves as men in order to escape misogyny cus u couldn’t get anywhere much in life (much less become successful doctors) as women. and anyways, of course a woman constrained by sexism would prefer to be given the privileges of a man. i can’t confirm these women were lesbians, but you cannot confirm they were transmen either.
Interesting how… I didn’t argue that women haven’t disguised themselves throughout history. I mentioned specific instances of historical trans men for whom there is evidence to conclude they identified as men and not women. I said nothing against lesbians in my post either, only about transphobes.
the funniest thing in the entire pirates of the caribbean series is definitely that one scene in At World’s End where they have parlay but davy jones is part of it, and rather than have him stand in the shallows or something they get a big bucket of water and have in stand on it on shore
who thought of that idea? who thought “put davy jones in a bucket of water” and had the guts to suggest it aloud? and then who went “hey that sounds like a great idea!”
at some point someone told davy jones their idea was for him to stand in a bucket of water and he agreed to it
*stands majestically in a bucket*
ok but notice the trail of buckets behind him meaning he walked from the ocean through three other buckets of water before he got into the one hes standing in
It’s even funnier when you consider how he must have figured all this out in the first place.
Some folks are asking “well, if he can avoid the no-dry-land curse simply by standing in a bucket, doesn’t that ruin his whole motivation?”, but he’s not on dry land here.
The parley takes place on a sandbar - which, for the unfamiliar, is a temporary “island” of sand deposited by breaking waves, unconnected with the shore, that spends most of its time submerged, being exposed only at low tide.
What Jones is doing here is rules-lawyering his curse. Can you imagine the trial and error he must have gone through in order to determine that this would actually work?
“Okay, do islands count as dry land? How about parts of the shore below the high tide mark? Reefs? Shoals? What if I stand in a pool of water on a shoal? Does it have to be seawater, or will any water do? Does it have to be a natural tidepool, or can it be something artificial, like a bucket?”
What I am saying is that there must have been a process.
Pretty sure that this implies that the reverse - a bucket of sand, floating on the water (big bucket with just a bit of sand), would qualify as dry land. That’s absurd, so I’m pretty sure that his lawyer pulled a fast one over the curse governor.
It may be absurd, but the text of the film bears it out. Davy Jones can sense the presence of his heart while it’s at sea, but not while it’s on land (indeed, that’s why he buried it on land in the first place: to break his connection with it) - yet placing the heart in a simple jar of dirt conceals it from Jones’ awareness just as surely as burial on land does, even if the jar is on a boat at the time. Suitably prepared vessels filled with dirt absolutely count as dry land for the purpose of Jones’ curse.
Then the reverse should also be true. If he buried it in a jar of water, no matter how far inland it is, he would be able to sense it. So by this logic, any container of seawater counts as not dry land, ergo, the bucket is a perfectly viable loophole.
Not necessarily. It’s traditionally a lot easier to accidentally get whammied by a curse than it is to weasel around it - I figure that’s why he’s using multiple layers of indirection here. He’s forbidden to set foot on dry land, but it’s technically not dry land (it’s a sandbar, a non-permanent landform exposed only at low tide) and he technically didn’t set foot on it (he’s standing in a bucket of water). It’s entirely possible that either one of those things alone wouldn’t make the grade.
okay but this all raises one further, very important question: if it’s specifically “dry land” he’s forbidden from, what about wetlands.
can Davy Jones fight you in salt marshes? can he throw down in a peat bog?Swamp Battle?
This is the quality content I come to Tumblr for.
could he step on land if his shoes are wet?
No matter how ridiculous PotC gets I will love it. Especially when it results in conversations like this
What if he crawls around on his hands and knees, with his feet raised slightly into the air? Can he walk on his hands? Can he ride around in a litter or a wheelchair?
can he be in a wheelbarrow?
What if he flies over dry land? Like in a hot air balloon, or in the claws of a giant bird?
What if he’s carried by two swallows using a strand of creeper?
You guys really just hate any woman using her sexuality to make money. You’ll consume all her media for free but the moment she wants something in return y’all get spiteful and way outta pocket about it. The whole “but Snapchat doesn’t allow adult content!” is fucking weak because I’m sure y’all still posting ass and thirst traps constantly.
I don’t even know how this alone would be an act of tax fraud, you have no idea what income she reports, but the fact that y’all feel SO strongly about this shit that you try to fuck up people’s livelihoods for the laughs is garbage. I hope the next time y’all need any assistance everyone spits in your face.
It’s been awful on Facebook. Men would go and harass women who do sex work. And start posting edgy memes and saying really disgusting shit. And these are the same ones that are like “I respect all women! Why don’t they like me!?” 🙄
the sites that we use to sell our content TAX US . i’ve sent in the tax forms on more than one occasion .
and of course they aren’t out there reporting their weed guy to the irs. it’s pure hatred of women
The incel army CAN’T report you to the IRS even if they wanted to.
i truly hope that the anxiety and fear those women felt due to these monsters comes back to get them (the men) 10 fold.
Also, the IRS doesn’t report “crimes” so long as you pay your taxes. You do sex work but show your earnings and pay taxes? They don’t care. They literally talk about it on their website.
And…. if someone can have an Etsy then they can have a premium Snap account like? Honestly???
